faithuntamed

Author: nicole

  • The Places God Meets Us

    Psalm 139:7–10 (NIV): 7 Where can I go from your Spirit?

    Where can I flee from your presence?

    8 If I go up to the heavens, you are there;

             if I make my bed in the depths, you are there.

          9 If I rise on the wings of the dawn,

             if I settle on the far side of the sea,

          10 even there your hand will guide me,

             your right hand will hold me fast.

    I drove home from work on Monday to see Hot Stuff waiting in the driveway.

    Hot Stuff has a huge grin on his face and says “Hey sweetie. I got fired today.”

    What’s weird is, I already knew.

    I was driving home from work and thought, “I bet Hot Stuff lost his job today.” Part of me hopes he did lose his job.

    Of course I was a little stressed. Who wouldn’t be. Mostly? Im flooded with relief. Hot Stuff has not been happy at work for a long time.

    My husband is an undeservedly, loyal man. He has been working in a very hostile work environment for the last 6 months. While I wish Hot Stuff had been able to quit first, I’m just glad he’s out. To say Hot Stuff has been exploited would be an understatement.

    Do we have bills to pay? Yes. Are we going to lose our insurance? Yes.

    Still. My husband looks happier than I have seen him in a long time.

    We will be okay. We both have an inner peace.

    Hot Stuff is making Uber deliveries while he searches for a new job.

    I do my part and return to teaching English As A Second Language in the early mornings.

    When I open my schedule for availability. I am greeted by a series of messages from former students. These messages range from wanting to know if we were affected by last month’s Texas floods, to when am I available to tutor again.

    I smile.

     God always manages to meet us in unexpected places.

    Sometimes God meets us in the natural world.

    I think back to the first time I was aware of God’s presence. I was three.

    I was lying on a wooden floor in our Tokyo  townhoome, when the sun came through a window and covered me. It was the first time I was aware of a presence bigger than me.

    I don’t know why the sun exemplifies God in my heart. To this day, when I see sun pour through a window, I think, “Ah, there he is”. My heart feels hugged.


    Sometimes God meets us through others.

    As a prison volunteer, I often saw God in the midst of prison life. If we are all created in God’s image (Genesis 1:27), then every person I encounter represents God. In prison I found, dedicated search of scriptural understanding, fellowship, deep soul searching and joy. Joy in all circumstances.

    In my ESL students, I found encouragement and support at a time when I was embracing both panic and relief. Even if my student’s didn’t know, I believe God did.

    During the season of my divorce (prior marriage) I asked God to “send me His finest” for a season. I found His support through co-workers, a coke-addicted landlord, my church family, long-lost childhood and college friends, and friends I met in prison.

    I believe God meets us through scripture, through others, through the world around us, in dreams, and even coffee houses.

    There was a season in my early forties when I was really struggling with some bottled up dysfunction. I am a survivor of childhood emotional, psychological and occasional physical abuse. An adult survivor of emotional, psychological, physical and sexual abuse. I had hit a rock bottom and was finally working with a therapist to process and navigate all of this.

    I carved out some time for myself each week. I took a spiral notebook to Starbucks and began journaling. It was the first time in decades I had carved out regular time for myself.

    As I started journaling, I realized that I was journaling to God. I would always start “Dear One”, then pour out my stuff. I went through at least 70 notebooks over the next few years. It was the beginning of my ongoing prayer journaling practice.

    So yes. God met me at Starbucks.

    I encourage you to see where God is pursuing you today. I’m willing to bet He’s right next to you, wherever you are.

  • Community

    Neither Hot Stuff or I gravitate towards social situations.  It is very easy for us to stay home and just hang out in a space we both feel loved and safe.

    Take, for instance, our Tuesday Date Nights. For the past few weeks I have texted Hot Stuff this question during my lunch break.

    Wanna go to Mambo’s after work or eat fish sticks and watch zombies at home?”  Mambo’s is a new restaurant in our neighborhood. We know if we go we will see neighbors and enjoy good food. Still, crowds, lines, etc…ugh.

    Fish sticks and zombies” Hot Stuff replies.

    I smile and think “this is why I love this man.”

    We are not called to stay isolated. God created us to be in community with one another.

    Hebrews 10:24-25 And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds,

    25 not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.

    The past few weeks we have been attending quite a few community gatherings. Our church has an annual labor day camping weekend. We almost bailed this year, but once we arrived, we had a blast.

    We camped out in a cabin with campers from another church. We made new friends, had great discussions with new and old friends, dug into scripture fished, swam and ate way too much food. We both walked away with more scriptural grounding and a reminder that God is a good God and humans can be kinda cool when given a chance.

    https://www.chapelhillumcsa.com/post/church-retreat-was-a-success

    This weekend was followed by a Burgers and Bingo fundraiser for Kairos Prison Ministry. Once again. Great fellowship, catching up with old and new friends, good food, and a reminder that we are to continue loving all of God’s people. Which, just happens, to be everyone.

    Last night was date night.. I sent Hot Stuff a text. “Let’s go to Mambo’s tonight.”

    We did not implode. We had a fun time watching our neighbors, visiting with the staff. Eating good fish tacos. (not fishsticks) We will be returning frequently.

    God is still working on us😉

  • On Suicide

    September is Suicide Awareness Month. I want this blog to be a place where we don’t shy away from the hard stuff. Life in Christ never promises to be a life free of trials. Just God’s Love and Grace to lean on when times are tough.

    Before I start. Let me give you some vital information.

    7 tips from Johns Hopkins Medicine

    – offer help and support. If a loved one is struggling, encourage them to seek professional care.
    – restrict access to weapons as much as possible
    -look out for each other. reach out when struggline; be honest with your feelings; and trust your support system

    If you or a love one is in crisis, call the toll-free National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK

    Pictured above is my mother.

    My mom was a force of nature. She grew up in rural North Carolina. After college my mom joined the Peace Corps and traveled throughout the Middle East, Eastern Europe and West Asia. She then traveled throughout Europe just for fun. After returning to the States she trained peace corp volunteers.

    In Texas she met my dad. They moved to Japan as educational missionairies just three months after my birth. 6 years later they moved back to the States with my younger sister and I.

    My mom raised 2 girls and was a foster mom to my two foster sisters and my two foster brothers. She loved her 5 grandsons fiercely. She loved history and taught both history and gifted students in our local school district.

    But she had the demon of untreated mental health that was rampant in the 60’s, 70’s and 80’s. There were seasons in my life where I was simply told “she’s in the hospital”. Then my mom would be back. Talking about books, baking cookies and watching her crime shows.

    When I asked her if she was okay, she would laugh and tell me I had an active imagination. Then she would give me a look. A look that says we will not discuss this. So we remained silent.

    I spent my entire life afraid that she might break. Whatever that meant. Others perceived her as so strong. And she was. She was also fragile. Strong and fragile.

    Then, 10 years ago, my mom did break. She chose not to eat. My dad and I took turns watching her in the hospital where she was on a suicide watch. She eventually died due to complications of anorexia. We couldn’t convince her to eat. She wanted to die on her own terms.

    My biggest fear had come true.

    I turn to God and wonder why we were not enough for her. I wonder why her faith wasn’t strong enough…

    I have to believe that God is just as broken hearted as I am. I believe he has never stopped loving her in her brokenness. After all, He loves all of us in our mess.

    There are seven suicides in the Bible. Abimelech (Judges 9:54), Samson (Judges 16:30),Saul (1 Sam 31:4),Saul’s armor bearer (1 Sam 31:5) Ahithophel (2 Sam 17:23), Zimri (1 Kings 16:18), and we all know Judas (Matt 27,5).

    In my life I have lost two close friends, a cousin, two uncles and my mom to suicide. The ripple effects are unending..and my heart breaks when I think of how hopeless they must feel to take this course.

    After my moms death, I am numb. I wonder what I could have done. The signs were there. We simply didn’t see them. She had bought the entire family dress clothes for “an event we would need them for” (her funeral). She had started giving away family heirlooms.

    My family and I thought she was just in a slight depression. I wish we had paid better attention. She was depressed sometimes. She always found her way back.

    Lots of therapy has helped me let go of the guilt that comes when a family member takes their life. I will probably always struggle with the abandonment portion of it.

    I am just one of many affected by the ripple effects of suicide.

    Please, please. Pay attention to those in your life. We , as a society are more isolated from family and friends now than ever before. We are bombarded with information and lonelier than ever.

    If you are struggling, please ask someone you trust for help.

    BREAK THE SILENCE

    Reach out to the number at the top of this post.

    You are made in the image of God my friend. And God loves you beyond measure.

  • Love and Praise

    If I can do nothing else in my life. I can love and praise. I may fumble at this.

    I DO fumble. Often.

    I let my feelings and racing mind interfere. I do not always understand the heart of others. I sometimes let pride interfere.

    But…It’s such a pleasure to simply love. No strings. No shaming. No blaming. No unsolicited advice.

    Just show up and listen.

    After yesterday’s post, I was thinking about how listening to God has always been such a blessing Even when i think i must be imagining what im hearing.. I am always blessed.. Go to prison and make lifelong friends? Sure.

    Move countries? Ugh..but Sure. Play basketball and uno with teens? Sure. Learn yoyo tricks with child soldiers? Sure. Dig for worns with preschoolers? Sure. Pick mud off a rhino? Very cool.

    I was a missionary kid. So moving from country to country? Just being open to how life unfolds, giving praise through worship and song, simply loving people one at a time was how my early childhood years were spent.

    I never worried about finances, where I would sleep, how I would communicate. I just showed up and made friends.

     Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Mathew 6:26

    Maybe, just maybe, that is the untamed faith that I am trying to reclaim.

    When did I let life tame me?

  • Faith untamed?

    Faith untamed?

    It has been several months since Hot Stuff and I took a plunge from social media. During that time, God has been working on both of us.

    After three years of staying home with ongoing lupus complications, I started a new job at a local nature based school. I love it!

    After the closing of his last factory job, Hot Stuff started a new job at a local bakery. He tolerates it.

    We start our mornings with a cup of coffee together and a short prayer before we carpool to our jobs.

    I write/draw in the mornings and work part time at this nature based school in the afternoons. Our lives are comfortable. Money is tight..but money is always tight. Nothing new there. By the grace of God we are managing.

    There is change in the air and we both know it. We are savoring this time here in our small rental home in South Texas. A home we have now lived in for almost 10 years.

    I have been feeling a pull to leave all of our stuff behind and fly to an undisclosed location that is in the midst of an ongoing teacher shortage.

    True. The entire country is in need of teachers. But this particular location is in a teacher crisis. I truly believe God has a plan and a purpose for both of us in this undisclosed place. We simply have to take the leap of faith and go.

    Hot Stuff and I have been praying about this. Jesus says “Come follow me” Yet. We are still holding back.

    We do not have a faith that is wild and free. We like having family near by. We are finally able to pay all of our bills consistently. We don’t know how long my health will hold up. The reasons to stay are endless.

    We agree to give ourselves two years to prepare for the move. Why two years? Because apparently our leap of faith is more like baby steps.

    Truth is Hot Stuff and I both know that when God moves? We really don’t have control of the timeline. But for now, we continue in our daily routine and pretend we don’t know this.

    I realize I have lots of room for growth regarding an untamed faith. Specifically in the area of receiving.

    Whenever I pray to God about any situation, he always seems to tell me to “just receive“. It is something I am still learning. I try to bargain with God. “Can’t I take two years to learn how to receive?”

    Receive grace. Receive love. Receive criticism. Receive rejection. Receive joy. Just receive life as it is and find the joy of God in the midst.

    Receive the adventures I have in store for you” He whispers.

    I’m scared” I whisper back.

    I hope to use this blog to unpack those fears, to learn to let go of my distrust, and learn to embrace the untamed me. The me that is “fearfully and wonderfully made.”

    While I am learning, Hot Stuff and I continue to go to our jobs, watch zombie movies, enjoy local family, friends and our pets. We continue our involvement with prison ministry and savor our church family. These are the things we know. We tell ourselves. This is enough.

    Deep down, we both know it is not.